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Oct 30, 2026
The Twelfth Step Begins at Home: Don't Miss the Days of Play
Service in recovery can begin with the people closest to us, especially our children, as we learn to show up, play, teach self-reliance, and heal alongside...
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Oct 29, 2026
The Amends List and the Resentment List
Recovery asks us to examine two difficult truths, the harm we have caused and the harm we still carry, so that guilt, anger, and old patterns...
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Oct 29, 2026
You Don't Have to Obey Your Anxiety Anymore
Recovery begins when we stop automatically acting on anxiety and start building healthier responses through breathing, reflection, service, and small daily actions.
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Oct 27, 2026Shuffle the Nervous System
A deck of short cards about the brain, anxiety and the nervous system. Flip one at random and learn something about the machine running the whole...
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Oct 04, 2026The Big List of Childhood Disruptive Events
This is a general idea about why we struggle with anxiety in the first place. We experience variations of the causes below, mixed together. Likely, all...
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Oct 04, 2026Qualities and Characteristics to Develop and Maintain
A practical map of good character, more than twenty groups of qualities from calmness and honesty to stewardship of the earth and care for future generations,...
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Oct 04, 2026The Big List of Anxiety Triggers
Triggers are not flaws to eliminate but signals built into every nervous system. This piece lists 121 everyday triggers and shows how recovery comes from changing...
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Oct 04, 2026The Big List of Addictions
A list of more than two hundred addictions, from alcohol and sugar to people pleasing, worry loops, and self-hatred, showing how far addiction reaches beyond the...
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Oct 03, 2026Where the Loop Begins
Addiction often begins in childhood, in the thought loops we create when our needs go unmet. Forty years sober, the author traces those loops to their...
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Sep 26, 2026Boredom, Tiredness, and Laziness
Boredom, tiredness, and laziness form a loop that creates the negative chemistry most of us mistake for our default state of mind, when it is really...
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Sep 09, 2026Some Nights You Get Jumped by Your Own Head
Positive self-talk only feels dishonest because we mistake the anxiety brain's negative output for an accurate report on reality, and once we see that, the simple...
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Aug 16, 2026Nobody in That House Had Agency
The adults who raised us were too anxious to be present, so we learned to check in and check out, and the only way to break...
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