This writing is directed toward anyone who senses—or already knows—that they have addictive eating patterns they would like to change. My assumption is simple: all addiction, whether obvious or hidden, is a symptom of conscious and unconscious anxiety. It doesn’t matter how strong, successful, or disciplined you appear on the outside—if you find yourself caught in patterns you can’t easily break, anxiety is somewhere in the background.
Most standard diets around the world by 2025 are built around easy, cheap calories that fall short in countless ways. Sure, they curb hunger for a little while, but they don't nourish the body deeply. So we end up eating more of the same empty foods just to try and fill the gap.
In your twenties, you might not care. Some people love food so much, the idea of changing their diet never even crosses their mind. They get too much pleasure from eating to worry about what’s actually fueling their bodies. That’s normal. That’s human nature.
But if you're here, reading this, you're probably someone who’s ready—or at least curious—to do something different.
When you travel to poorer areas or islands around the world, you'll notice something: rice is often the staple. It’s cheap, filling, and familiar. Add a little protein and sauce, and you’ve got a basic formula: carbohydrates, fat, and protein. If you ate like that your whole life—without overeating or loading up on processed junk—you could live a long, relatively healthy life.
The real issue isn’t rice or simple foods. It’s how much we eat, how often we eat, and what emotions are driving our eating patterns in the first place. It all comes back to balance—matching what you eat to what your body actually needs based on your lifestyle.
And you don’t even need a scale to figure out if you're at a healthy weight. Just look: if there’s noticeable flab, especially around the abdomen, it’s a sign the body is carrying extra weight it doesn’t need. Visceral fat—around the organs—is where a lot of serious health problems start.
Meal planning today is harder than ever because people want what they want. They don't want to feel rationed or restricted. In places like school cafeterias, prisons, and the military, you get what you’re given. In the modern food world, it’s the opposite: hyper-personalized choice, driven by cravings, marketing, and emotional triggers.
And that’s why most diets fail. Everyone’s looking for a trick, a shortcut to weight loss that doesn’t require real, lasting change.
There are plenty of ways to lose weight fast—you can massively restrict calories and crank up your activity level. You’ll probably suffer through the hunger, but eventually, you’ll burn fat. After a week or two, most people start seeing results. But without changing the underlying emotional patterns, almost everyone regains the weight.
Because it's not just about the food. It's about the mind driving the fork.
So what’s the real solution?
On this particular journey, it's not just about cutting calories or counting carbs. It’s about being willing to look at your entire lifestyle—your emotional patterns, your thinking habits, your relationship with anxiety—and asking yourself some hard questions.
Why am I eating when I'm not hungry?
Why do I reach for food when I feel uncomfortable?
What am I actually trying to soothe?
You don’t need shame for this work. You need awareness. Most people around you are caught in the same loop of eating the wrong foods at the wrong time, in the wrong quantities. You’re not broken—you’re operating in a system that was programmed by anxiety, trauma, and habit.
The good news is, patterns can be broken. The bad news? It takes real work.
Not just running, lifting weights, or logging hours at the gym—although physical movement matters. The heavy lifting I'm talking about is emotional. Psychological. It means examining your life, your past, and the way your mind reacts to discomfort.
When you do that—when you start dismantling chronic anxiety—the need for compulsive, destructive behaviors starts to weaken. Conflict fades. Addiction fades. Self-sabotage fades.
Is it fast? No. It takes the time it takes. Some people have been working on themselves for years. Some are just starting now. No timeline is wrong.
Maybe this is the first time you’re thinking about your eating habits in the context of raw, honest anxiety. Maybe you’re already familiar. It doesn’t matter. Wherever you’re starting from is fine.
It also doesn’t matter what your belief system is. There’s an objective truth about human beings: we are sensitive, emotional creatures living in a hyper-stimulated, anxious world. You can be wildly successful in some areas of your life and still feel lost when it comes to self-mastery.
Self-mastery begins with the willingness to surrender addictions. If you’re not ready, that’s okay. You’re free to put this down and go your own way.
But if you are ready—if you're willing to learn how to relax your mind, let go of obsession, and rebuild your nervous system—you’re in the right place.
You have to be willing to work. You need something to hold yourself accountable to. You need a new education—not just about food, but about yourself.
Permanent weight loss is physics, yes. But it’s also philosophy, psychology, and a deep emotional transformation. It’s part process, part action, part letting go of old stories.
Can I promise you success?
Of course not. I don't know you. I don’t know how committed you are or how much chaos you’re up against. I can't predict your outcome.
But I can offer you a better question:
What’s your plan to live free of addiction and anxiety?
What’s your strategy to stop compulsive eating, and not just for a month or two—but for life?
The methods I share aren’t magic tricks. They're adapted from real-world experience: recovery work, meditation, psychology, and hard-won personal change. I don’t claim perfection. I’m not a guru, and you’ll never see me pretend to be.
Take what resonates. Leave what doesn’t. What you’ll find here is logic, grounded practice, and no bullshit. I couldn’t survive selling hype to a New York audience—and I wouldn't want to.
In my book The goodsugar Diet, I go deeper into the 'ideal' diet, methods of managing anxiety, and way to rewire the nervous system toward true relaxation. For some people, the idea of real, lasting peace sounds like fantasy. For others, it’s the first time they even realize how much hidden anxiety has been driving them their whole lives.
Most of us are carrying both major and minor addictions. Real liberation starts with freeing the mind from internal conflict—and it’s possible. It’s work, but it’s worth it.
Mastering your diet is just the first frontier.
Beyond that, the same tools you develop here will help you build better relationships, raise more conscious children, strengthen your community, and grow into the kind of human being who is free to love, support, and give without being dragged down by old pain.
This is the work we're here to do—together.