When you're in this kind of business and have a public face, people ask all kinds of questions that often have a similar answer.
People often say, "I like all this deep stuff you're talking about, but it overwhelms me because it requires a lot of concentration and it doesn't really stick."
My first response to that is that finding your way back to a sense of peace and creating an equilibrium in your body is a lifelong challenge. There are external forces that influence the health of the body and mind at every moment. We are conditioned throughout our childhood with certain beliefs, and many of us get trapped in a cycle of anxiety. This anxiety can lead to addictions, as we seek to escape the pain it causes.
At a certain stage of our development, our best option may seem to be self-destructive behaviors. This is temporary; we won't do this forever. If you don't understand the essence of who you really are—your character, perception of reality, motivators, anxieties, and fears—you won't be able to disconnect from these negative things truly and completely.
If you're looking for an immediate solution to your addictions, it's simple: just stop. Don't talk about it, don't seek instructions—just stop right now. Do not engage in that thing anymore today. If you can do that, you are on your way. The next morning, lay in bed and put your hands under your body to prevent them from moving towards a distraction. Keep your eyes closed to avoid visual distractions. Start breathing and watch the thoughts in your mind. Gently push each thought away from the center of your mind.
The nature of the mind is to worry and figure out things constantly. To change this, we must develop aspects of our personality and character that are currently undeveloped. This may not be a moral issue, but given the right circumstances, an undeveloped character can lead to immoral actions. Most people suffer internally and do destructive things to themselves. This behavior may be as subtle as not being kind to oneself.
Many of us don't know what gentle and nurturing means because we didn't experience enough of it. It must be learned. Start by caring for a plant, a bird, or even a goldfish. Nurturing a living creature helps us understand the positive experience of supporting life and can teach us empathy.
Sensitize yourself to the pain and discomfort of captivity, so you can empathize with your inner child and the wounds you carry. Seeing these wounds clearly allows you to understand, honor, and find forgiveness. Recognize the long-standing patterns of mistakes made with vulnerable children from generation to generation.
If you're trying to lose weight, it's simple: eat less and exercise more. Rinse and repeat. There is no secret weapon. The power to change begins with reading about it and having the willingness to change. Pick the most logical steps and learn to relax without substances. Practice breathing your way into a relaxed state often enough, and you'll start to change your brain's patterns.
When we practice positivity despite our negative thoughts and external negativity, we slowly start to transform. This doesn't mean we should be joyful during terrible times, but we should respect and experience our grief and sadness.
