Childhood pain is not the only negative experience during our first 18 years of life. We also learn addictive behavior patterns from observing others and learn to express anger through behaviors we see, whether rage and explosive actions or calm, gentle conversation. During these formative years, our role models may not be ideal, and growing up in a war-torn area or experiencing social traumas can deeply impact us.
You might have been sensitive to teasing at school or had special needs that made learning difficult, leading to frustration and perceived trauma. Frequent exposure to such trauma shapes our brain cycles and patterns, making these reactions ingrained. Unraveling these patterns in adulthood is challenging but possible with willingness, tenacity, and fearlessness in confronting difficult feelings, even if reality seems hard during the process.