relationships

Why Intimacy Reveals What Courtship Hides

Why Intimacy Reveals What Courtship Hides

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Romantic relationships feel destabilizing not because partners suddenly change, but because intimacy removes the biological, psychological, and nervous system buffers of courtship and gradually reveals the defensive traits, projections, and...

Why Intimacy Reveals What Courtship Hides

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Romantic relationships feel destabilizing not because partners suddenly change, but because intimacy removes the biological, psychological, and nervous system buffers of courtship and gradually reveals the defensive traits, projections, and...

Why Love Turns Vicious

Why Love Turns Vicious

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Breakups often end in bitterness because the nervous system interprets separation as a threat, unleashing anxiety, fear, and reactivity that drive people to sever intimacy through anger, resentment, and even...

Why Love Turns Vicious

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Breakups often end in bitterness because the nervous system interprets separation as a threat, unleashing anxiety, fear, and reactivity that drive people to sever intimacy through anger, resentment, and even...

When Love Feels Like a Competition

When Love Feels Like a Competition

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Constant competition in a relationship often masks deeper fears and insecurities, and true intimacy begins when one person becomes aware and chooses connection over control.

When Love Feels Like a Competition

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Constant competition in a relationship often masks deeper fears and insecurities, and true intimacy begins when one person becomes aware and chooses connection over control.

Relationships Are Harder When....

Relationships Are Harder When....

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Inner conflict quietly shapes every relationship we have, and without doing the personal work to understand and regulate ourselves, even love, therapy, or commitment cannot protect us from the chaos...

Relationships Are Harder When....

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Inner conflict quietly shapes every relationship we have, and without doing the personal work to understand and regulate ourselves, even love, therapy, or commitment cannot protect us from the chaos...

Is It Love or Dopamine?

Is It Love or Dopamine?

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If Rumi and Shakespeare had known neuroscience, they might have written that love is both poetry and chemistry, a flood of dopamine, oxytocin, and longing that feels divine but begins...

Is It Love or Dopamine?

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If Rumi and Shakespeare had known neuroscience, they might have written that love is both poetry and chemistry, a flood of dopamine, oxytocin, and longing that feels divine but begins...

The Push and Pull of Intimacy

The Push and Pull of Intimacy

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True intimacy is the balance between connection and individuality, where love matures from fantasy into the disciplined act of seeing and being seen without losing oneself.

The Push and Pull of Intimacy

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True intimacy is the balance between connection and individuality, where love matures from fantasy into the disciplined act of seeing and being seen without losing oneself.